Friendship – A lie or
is it????
Are Banters true
friends? Are couples true friends? Can colleagues be turned into friends? May
be I am jumping way too ahead of the topic. What is the meaning of friend? Many
things have been written about it, and there is nothing that my accomplished
mind is going to elicit anything new. It may be just the illustration of
something which is blabbered earlier. However, I am one confused soul which
can’t understand something even after 24 years. Anyway, I see people vehemently
get mixed, come forward keeping aside all the hesitation and hence become
friends. Are these people true friends? My acumen in this respect bows to this
million pound question? My solution to this puzzle is to go down to the intrinsic
element as atom is for the substance. As per me, the very basic thing in life
is how diligently you manage things. Axiomatically, at the macro level multiple
factors surface which also holds importance to a great level. Although, the crux
lies in the care that you feel and express it afterwards.
Imagine how fortunate
to have someone whom they can call whenever they want, someone who leaves
everything aside, take break from the exigency that they are facing in their
life. Family is bound by the love for first 15- 20 years and hence a completely
different proposition. Everyone has their fight and it’s the prerogative of
individual to take it till the end, nevertheless the journey becomes quite easy
by the companion. So does it mean a companion who has care for you becomes a
friend of yours? Well I can’t be sure of this either. Things change quickly,
aren’t they? Someone told me that you don’t need to find answers of every
second thing. Well isn’t the easy way to deal with things. Yeah surely it is,
but is this the solution?
My shrewd mind again
goes into the labyrinthine of friendship. Is the knowledge box, true friends
and that is why books are considered to be the best friends of the human
beings? In spite of their availability of 24 * 7, one can’t express his side of
emotions. So knowledge, presence, sharing, care and altruism are some of the
traits that which make people friends.
Hey! Finally I got one thing
which defines the friendship and that is pragmatism. In this non catholic world,
where every relation is considered as just another step of the profit ladder,
Use it and dump it. “It's hard to tell who has your back, from who has it long
enough just to stab you in it....” A friendly
cigarette, an occasional trip, a less than rare meeting and last but not the
least a betrayal defines the relation FRIENDSHIP. Isn’t? One capricious soul
driving things as per his/her will. What if it hurts someone; who cares? Astoundingly
what takes a friend to delude another; girl, a promotion, money? Those birthday
bashes, friendly pat ends up with calumniating about something which never
exists. Life is a race and we are not here for a morning walk right?
Have you ever been there where
you feel that you have ignored a friend or worse backstabbed him/her? I go step
one further asking have you been deserted by someone. Well no one can demand an
answer for that and it is not meant for anyone too. It is something which your
conscience knows. But, a friend is one person who stands by your side at every
moment in difficult times and good times. A person, who slaps you on your
mistakes, hugs you on your success and tries to guide in difficult times.
He/She guides other when you are going towards a dead end, alarms you, wakes
you, wants to know anything and everything about you. It is like a trade where
in the balance sheet is prepared with how much you share and are comfortable with.
If you are fortunate to have that
person in your life just hang on to him. It is never about the luxury of quantity
that matters, it’s about the quality. “If you live to be a hundred, I want to
live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.”J
