Friendship – A lie or is it????

Friendship – A lie or is it????

Are Banters true friends? Are couples true friends? Can colleagues be turned into friends? May be I am jumping way too ahead of the topic. What is the meaning of friend? Many things have been written about it, and there is nothing that my accomplished mind is going to elicit anything new. It may be just the illustration of something which is blabbered earlier. However, I am one confused soul which can’t understand something even after 24 years. Anyway, I see people vehemently get mixed, come forward keeping aside all the hesitation and hence become friends. Are these people true friends? My acumen in this respect bows to this million pound question? My solution to this puzzle is to go down to the intrinsic element as atom is for the substance. As per me, the very basic thing in life is how diligently you manage things. Axiomatically, at the macro level multiple factors surface which also holds importance to a great level. Although, the crux lies in the care that you feel and express it afterwards.

Imagine how fortunate to have someone whom they can call whenever they want, someone who leaves everything aside, take break from the exigency that they are facing in their life. Family is bound by the love for first 15- 20 years and hence a completely different proposition. Everyone has their fight and it’s the prerogative of individual to take it till the end, nevertheless the journey becomes quite easy by the companion. So does it mean a companion who has care for you becomes a friend of yours? Well I can’t be sure of this either. Things change quickly, aren’t they? Someone told me that you don’t need to find answers of every second thing. Well isn’t the easy way to deal with things. Yeah surely it is, but is this the solution?

My shrewd mind again goes into the labyrinthine of friendship. Is the knowledge box, true friends and that is why books are considered to be the best friends of the human beings? In spite of their availability of 24 * 7, one can’t express his side of emotions. So knowledge, presence, sharing, care and altruism are some of the traits that which make people friends.

Hey! Finally I got one thing which defines the friendship and that is pragmatism. In this non catholic world, where every relation is considered as just another step of the profit ladder, Use it and dump it. “It's hard to tell who has your back, from who has it long enough just to stab you in it....”  A friendly cigarette, an occasional trip, a less than rare meeting and last but not the least a betrayal defines the relation FRIENDSHIP. Isn’t? One capricious soul driving things as per his/her will. What if it hurts someone; who cares? Astoundingly what takes a friend to delude another; girl, a promotion, money? Those birthday bashes, friendly pat ends up with calumniating about something which never exists. Life is a race and we are not here for a morning walk right?

Have you ever been there where you feel that you have ignored a friend or worse backstabbed him/her? I go step one further asking have you been deserted by someone. Well no one can demand an answer for that and it is not meant for anyone too. It is something which your conscience knows. But, a friend is one person who stands by your side at every moment in difficult times and good times. A person, who slaps you on your mistakes, hugs you on your success and tries to guide in difficult times. He/She guides other when you are going towards a dead end, alarms you, wakes you, wants to know anything and everything about you. It is like a trade where in the balance sheet is prepared with how much you share and are comfortable with.

If you are fortunate to have that person in your life just hang on to him. It is never about the luxury of quantity that matters, it’s about the quality. “If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.”J

Wake UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wake Up !!!!!

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be, lines by John Lenon. I was walking on the road and saw one banana vendor eating his product meant to be sold to others. His age was approximately 70 years if not more. What makes it little more perplexing was an equally aged person coming out of Mercedes Benz with his grandson, in lavishing suit, wearing Rolex watch, sun glasses and couple of gold ornaments? He was blessed with a son and a steaming hot daughter in law. Now the crude comparison starts. Two set of people with same age, same life experience. However, one was showered with all the luxuries of life while another was left to face the brazen realities of life.

The feature of the above mentioned observation is that what that affluent old man did that the earlier vendor could not do? What made him to still work at such an old age? How can someone be coerced to do such a dead end job with no future? There are numerous questions that went across my mind the same very moment. They made me to contemplate about THE DESTINY. We can’t be there where we aren’t meant to be. Now this triggered the series of thoughts in my mind. Is it really destiny? Does god makes those decisions sitting up there, relieving himself from the heavy duties of busy schedule to create people  or may be some another world, or taking a break from some cabaret dance.

It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves – William Shakespeare. Since I have been in Infosys and hearing about NRN a lot, didn’t he faced any problem when he meant to start another company. Did Manmohan Singh ever think of being a man of reforms when he took as a finance minister? Ratan Tata quit IBM to join Tata Group. He became legend of modern times after managing or should I say successfully managing THE BIGGEST group from India.

Hey you will be thinking that I will be posing a question that what was exclusive, distinctive about them. However, I again have to break it up and ask you about what is so common about them. If you haven’t conjectured till now, is that they woke up at correct time in their lives. Aaah! Not in the morning Mr Alarm clock, what I meant was that they took the correct decision at the decisive time of their lives. They were not reluctant, not hesitant and definitely not procrastination things in due course of life. Apart from these they did not blame anybody for their decision and subsequent consequences.

So they did not enjoy the life? Well if I would have been at their place then nothing would have been more enjoying than the success itself. In spite of dreaming they made their dreams a reality. They lived their dreams. Dreams that will never haunt them as a nightmare. Instead Of flaunting their expertise they made people to praise their exhibition of success.

Earth’s Heaven

Earth’s Heaven

Well Well!!!! Reading heaven and Kashmir it is, all over the place. Yes Kashmir is place which is known as heaven mainly because of ascetic beauty, its garrulous mountains, picturesque sceneries and what not. I may be short of words while describing this wonderful, stupendous, embellished piece of work elicited by nature. I am already enthralled by writing just two lines about it. The cold breeze, narrow roads cutting down the mountains, difficult terrains, step farming, fog, alas I am crazy about it. However, in spite of my alacrity of mentioning Kashmir and its enticing and mesmerizing beauty I will stick to what I meant to write in this blog. Astonished! Yes this blog does not pertain to romantic state Kashmir. Axiomatically, there is one more heaven on this earth and that is Infosys Mysore.

Hold on; don’t feel ennui by just the mention of a tech freak company. Yeah sure, the achievements and the work culture is what I can blabber and praise my whole life but here I am describing the epicurean of beauty- Infosys Mysore. I still recall my days when I got my first placement in this esteemed organization. Everybody was excited and I was no exception to it. The inevitable day came and we flown to city of Wodeyar dynasty Mysore. By the time we reached the campus it was dark or should I say fortunately it was dark. As soon as we entered this exemplary campus, we were all stunned. It felt like a five star hotel in the lap of nature. This canvass of nature was full of natural beauty. The first building that blinded our eyes was GEC2. It was an unprecedented building that took our breath away. With our mouth wide open we kept staring at the sculpture illuminated with lights and circumvented by the well maintained and minuscule parks. Not to mention the musical fountain that we got to hear the very same day. That tranquilizing, assiduous music at that particular juncture satisfied our ferment and insatiable souls.

Going forward, what we saw was even more mellifluous and adorned. Yup, you all conjectured it with perfect accuracy - The Multiplex and ECC building. I have been to many multiplexes and so do you. And I can bet anything to what I saw was nothing less than a wonder to me. A round shaped multiplex with pointed tips. I could not decipher the concept of building such architecture and the conundrum further increased when I saw one of the sdb’s with somewhat same architecture. Loyal world, rock climbing, swimming pool, book shops, tennis grounds, bowling alley etc etc all these were breathtaking.

I always felt that the challenge was not to build these buildings but to maintain with 100% dedication. The challenges are not the huge number of people using these facilities but people using them are naïve and rookie. They inadvertently may do something which can prove costly. And hence full marks to the staff there.

Moving ahead was the large bunch of trees and amidst them were a couple of benches and a board with “smoking zone” written on it. Coming from a college environment where people smokes but not with permission; it gave everyone (at least smokers) some soothing effect. Everybody knew that they don’t need to hide anymore and we could all appreciate the permission to step into world which considered us more responsible and sustainable in this new arena.

The roads built there were outstanding. They were completely black in color and when I say black it means dark black. (Later on we saw the maintenance staff washing the road with some giant brush). There were plants along the roadside and the mild air blowing gently took away all the tiredness we had. It was the place where you can allow the wind to pass by you and take away all the sorrows, worries, laziness and tiredness. It always sparkled me with new energy and enthusiasm. It was a 30 min walk from my room to the class and I enjoyed every bit of it.

Frivolous Childhood

Frivolous Childhood

Did you know that childhood is the only time in our lives when insanity is not only permitted to us, but expected? I still remember the tail when I plucked all the plants from the garden as it was night and I don’t want them to catch cold. And whenever people listen to this story, they say “HOW CUTE”. There are numerous benefits of being a child. You can be stubborn and will be called as delightful. You can make your grandparents to scold your parents. The completion rate of insatiable demands is not only astonishing but astounding. Trust me; I have 100 of handkerchiefs with India written on them. The mistakes at which you get the benign love form every corner. I must have broken 100 charmis cream when I was a kid and was never scolded. I can’t even dare to break a useless container now.  The unforgettable pamper that is bestowed on us by every single person when you are a kid. The strangest part is that you get the attention of killing a lion when you have only managed to killed a mosquito. I miss every bit of palpable love showered by the relatives when you visit your relatives. Not to mention the king size welcome, loads of gifts and affable demands. Everyone wants to with you.

Amid all these I can’t keep my school days out of the equation. Nobody bothers with whom you sit, with whom you eat and blah blah. I like to mention the name Tania. She was the girl having two bodyguards and the rest of it is confidential :P

I am not bolstering but believe me it was nightmare to be in the same school of your elder siblings and especially when you are not the brightest of all. They used to get marks and I was the one who was at receiving end. I remembered of drawing a dog looking animal when asked to draw a peacock. The drawing teacher, Ms Anjali I will never forget her name. Boss, she was my English teacher as well. And she has total of 3 periods daily of my 4^th standard. Ask me the minutest details and I will blabber everything. She scares my nightmares till date.

The visit to a doctor; I still remember that we went to a doctor as my sister was ill. Now how this is possible that I am not examined there. I forced everyone, cried the hell out to get me checked. And not to mention that I never had any course of tablets he prescribed.

When you are a child you don’t need to pack your bags, no planning, no responsibility, and no humdrum equations of life. Everything tends to be very simple. I really miss those days no bills, no worries, no broken hearts, happy life and always smiling.

Learning

Learning

Guys, I know I am short of part 2 of my earlier blog, but I believe this is much important than anything else. I was the fervent believer that I am open to change; I am not egoistic and so on. This is my confession to one and all and the reason why I am putting this up in an open forum because I know I have been selfish and mean at more than occasional times.

Recently, I am going through a tuff phase where lot of changes is going on. Hence I blamed those changes for my behavior and by this I meant erratic and unpredictable behavior. I cursed everyone and everything and in course of that I sometimes (if I am being modest) uttered few defamatory remarks as well.

The purpose of writing is not to brag or exaggerate things in any way. It’s a sweet and simple confession of my egoism. Everyone must be wondering how that change came into my life? I need to thank couple of people who boldly told me. And to be honest I did not took this in a very friendly way and even went on to defend my egoism. But they were my friends, my well wishers. And I am the man of logic and proof. Hence I spent time to find its remedies. And I found this http://www.management-issues.com/2008/1/28/blog/%28-copy-of-%29-the-90-minute-hour.asp . I am not ashamed to accept that I am not this.

Guys, it’s not a blog but an apology to everyone. And thanks you two for highlighting this.

Democracy – Right or Compulsion part 1

Democracy – a word, a notion for which many freedom fighters lost their lives, many put their lives in risk. Struggle of hundred years after which we attained our independence and became republic. Once we became republic, Dr BR Ambedkar formed our constitution and it bestowed every citizen with some basic living rights. As per the same constitution, we choose some people, call them leaders, and make them the part of system for the betterment of society.

The four pillars of the democracy are the people, leaders, Parliament and the government. People, who chooses their representative from different parts of country for the impeccable narration of their concerns. Leaders, who hail from different constituencies meant to enumerate their area’s concern at the center stage. Parliament, commonly known as house of people and which has a primary purpose of forming legislation, perform a root cause analysis for subjects of utmost importance and discuss issues of national importance. Government – the ruler, the king who pampers the citizens of the country more than their own child.

The role of each and every party is very important for the efficient functioning of democracy. However, the recent event suggests somewhat opposite to what the idealistic scenario states. The people of country, the seeds of the plants, who decides whom they going to choose at the various positions in the ladder of the administration. As per their decision, the future of crop of development depends. 

to be continued ....